Are you overwhelmed when you wake up in the morning? Do you sometimes feel like a hot mess? It’s easy to feel alone but the truth is there are thousands of other moms who are struggling like you.
My life was pretty relaxed until I had my second baby. Long story short, I was sleep-deprived for 18 months. My wonderful baby girl didn’t sleep through the night until a few days before she turned 2!
Getting through the day was my only goal for a long time. I cried a lot, couldn’t remember things, and some days I felt depressed. I was completely overwhelmed by life.
Motherhood is Tough…
The truth is, motherhood is tough. It is the best and the worst at the same time. I love it but some days I want to hide in the closet with chocolate.
Life is a lot easier for me now. I enjoy enough sleep now (unless Netflix sucks me in) and I actually have a To Do list again. Even though my toddler would like to superglue herself to me, I am able to get out of the house alone – whoo hoo! There’s a glimmer of hope that I might actually lose the rest of my baby weight. I also appreciate life more after two tough years.
I’m not just surviving anymore, I am starting to thrive! I want the same for you.
10 Life-Changing Resources for Overwhelmed Moms
No matter what stage of motherhood you are in, the resources below will change your life for the better.
If you only do one thing, read Say Goodbye to Survival Mode.
I have learned a lot from Crystal Paine, the popular blogger from Money Saving Mom, because she keeps it real. As a mom of 3, she is honest about her own struggles in life and motherhood. Would you want to learn from someone who’s had it easy? What could they possibly teach us? The best people to learn from are those who have gone from struggling to successful. (And she is honest that she still struggles sometimes!)
Crystal is one of the most resourceful people I know. She is constantly searching for ways to improve her life and is an incredible teacher. Her book has 9 strategies to help you stress less, sleep more, and restore your passion for life. I’ve read it twice and it delivers!
2. Plan to Eat
One of the hardest things about life as a stay-at-home mom is having to come up with something to eat 3 times a day. It never ends! It was a huge source of stress and frustration for me until I found out about Plan To Eat. I rarely stand in front of an empty fridge wanting to scream nowadays.
Usually, I would never pay for something like this. I like free. Then I realized that if something will improve the quality of your life, it’s worth some money. Now I am happy to hand my money over to Plan to Eat because life is so much easier! (My husband loves it because I don’t get so hangry now.)
First, you add recipes to your account kind of like how you pin things to your Pinterest boards. Then you drag and drop recipes into a calendar and they create your grocery list! I print out the menu for the week and put it on the fridge door.
I LOVE IT.
Get a free 30-day trial here to see if it’ll work for you.
3. Free Online Classes, Ebooks and More
There are some incredible bloggers offering free classes, challenges, and eBooks. Here are a few that have helped me as well as some I’ve heard positive things about.
- Get Organized Once and For All Free Ecourse by I Heart Planners
- 5 Days to a Better Grocery Budget eBook by Money Saving Mom
- Free Minimalism Starter Kit by Allie Casazza (Is clutter and mess a problem for you? Allie is your girl!)
- Your Retreat: A Guide to Giving Yourself a Personal Planning Day eBook and Printables by The Humbled Homemaker
- Pregnancy and Newborn Resources Guide by Pregnant Chicken
- 10 Day Cleaning Challenge by Living Life as Moms
- 5 Day Organization Challenge by Pulling Curls
Crystal Paine also offers several online classes. I’ve taken all 3 and they’re incredible! Since she is a very frugal person, her prices are too.
- Make Over Your Mornings
- Make Over Your Evenings
- 15 Days to a Healthier You (not currently open but there is a waiting list for her next class)
The first two classes come with videos and a workbook full of practical tips and ideas.
I heard about Trello from a friend of mine and I love it. Basically, you start a board and then add different lists to get you organized. Each list will have a bunch of different cards which you can move around.
I created a board for 2017 and each list is a goal that we have for this year. Under each list is all the specifics. For example, I have a Books To Read list, a Declutter list, a Health list, and so on. Under each list, I have cards that break my goal down. It might be a name of a book, a room to declutter, or an exercise goal.
I also have lists called “Working On” and “Finished” so that I can keep track of what I am doing and what I have completed. Trello is one of the best tools I’ve found for organization and productivity. It feels awesome whenever I move a card to my “Finished” list.
Check it out here, it’s FREE!
6. Fancy Hands
I never knew services like Fancy Hands existed (I think it’s pretty new) and I never thought I’d pay for one if it did! I am finding it to be a HUGE help, though.
If you’re anything like me, your To Do list is long enough to keep you busy for 5 lifetimes. I didn’t think anyone could help me but at Christmas, I got a gift subscription to Fancy Hands. That gave me a personal assistant to do five short tasks! It worked out so well that I paid for another month. Here are a few examples of what I had them do for me.
- I ordered winter clothes from The Children’s Place but someone stole the package. Making calls is my least favorite thing to do and if I try, my children suddenly get very loud! I had Fancy Hands call and take care of it for me and I got more than $70 back. The refund paid for another month subscription!
- We bought Costco’s treadmill floor model and the magnetic key was missing. When I emailed, they said I had to call. I had Fancy Hands do it for me and we got the key in the mail.
- I had them find local organizations who would pick up donations from my front door. Since I am doing a big purge this year, it was a huge relief to get rid of a bunch of boxes.
- I had them call a former vet to get records for my senior cat. This was a huge relief for me because my cat wasn’t doing well and was too upset to call. (He is doing great!)
It seems like a luxury to pay someone to do these tasks, doesn’t it? The good news is the fee is only $6 per task. It is even less if you wait until they offer 20% off. Plus, you can earn FREE tasks by doing things like connecting them to your google calendar.
If you sign up through my link, you’ll get 50% off your first month and I’ll get some free tasks! Woo hoo!
7. Free Printables
Free printables have helped me for years! Calendars, meal planning worksheets, goal setting, daily planners, you name it. Beautiful, free printables are all over the internet.
- 31 Days of Free Printables by I Heart Planners
- Free Meal Plan Printable by All Things Mamma
- Weekly Cleaning Plan by Today’s Creative Life
- The Harmonized House Project (I love the “This Week” worksheet)
- To Do List by I Should Be Mopping the Floor
Use Pinterest to search for whatever printable will help you.
8. Grocery Delivery
I never thought I would be so excited about grocery delivery but it’s the best thing ever!
When I was a new mom, I found going to the grocery store alone with my baby very stressful. (Oddly enough, going alone felt like a vacation.) Then I saw an offer for free delivery from Vons and I almost jumped up and down. I was able to order my groceries online and a nice gentleman would deliver them the next day. Who could ask for more?
Grocery delivery, even if it costs a few dollars, is worth it. Think of the gas, the time, the stress. It’ss also easier to get a refund on bad produce.
You’ll have to find out who delivers in your area but here are some links to get you started.
- Amazon Fresh
- Peapod (select states)
- Walmart Grocery Delivery ($10 off with this link)
9. Hands Free Life and Hands Free Mama
Awhile back, I kept hearing about “Hands Free Mama” and I figured it was a book that shamed moms for using their phones. Wrong! Instead, I met a gentle, encouraging author who was open about mistakes she had made as a mother.
I ended up reading Hands Free Life first even though it’s the second book by Rachel Macy Stafford. It made me cry many times (in a good way) and has helped me be less distracted and more in the moment with my children. Now I am reading Hands Free Mama and is it every bit as good. Every mom should read these books and I plan on reading them over and over.
10. Facebook Groups
It is easy for moms to feel isolated and alone. You feel like you’re the only one still nursing or the only one with a baby waking up at night. Facebook groups can change that because they connect you with moms who are feeling the same way! Knowing you aren’t alone is often the best medicine.
My favorite mom group is Purposeful MomLife with Allie Casazza. It has grown a lot since I joined and now has 25,000 members. If you ask a question, you’ll get helpful and supportive answers.
It’s Your Turn…
What is your favorite resource for moms? I’d love to hear about it!